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Previously, Connie Palmer presented Bully Proofing Your Child (see below) with an approach that is not in general practice, but can be. The article below, entitled, Bully Proof Your Child, highlights the problem and the methodology that effectively transforms victims of bullying to confident, self advocates known as Bullies to Buddies.
If you were not able to attend the program and you would like more information about this approach you can go to www.bullies2buddies.com.
New legislation and anti-bullying laws will require schools to head up this problem and implement real anti-bullying curriculums in their districts. However, not all anti-bullying curriculums are created equal, nor are there any necessary requirements or criteria to oversee such a curriculum.
As parents, if you would like to see Bullies to Buddies adopted and successfully applied into your school district, you need to make your voices heard. Go to your Board of Education meetings and speak up. Write letters and emails to your decision making administrators. The problem of bullying can be corrected and it starts with one child at a time.
Ms. Palmer is also
available to meet with administrators, superintendents, faculties, staff,
parent groups, PTA's and PTO's to explain and answer any questions anyone may
have or how to get started. Inquiries for Ms. Palmer
should call 908.528.2807
or email,email@example.com .
Proof Your Child
and Stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me……
Each day, 10-year-old Seth
asked his mom for more and more lunch money. Yet he seemed skinnier than
ever and came home from school hungry. It turned out that Seth was handing
his lunch money to a fifth-grader, who was threatening to beat him up if
he didn't pay.
Kayla, 13, thought things
were going well at her new school, since all the popular girls were being
so nice to her. But then she found out that one of them had posted mean
rumors about her on a website. Kayla cried herself to sleep that night and
started going to the nurse's office complaining of a stomachache to avoid
the girls in study hall.
the kind of bullying that Seth and Kayla experienced is widespread. In
national surveys, most kids and teens say that bullying happens at school.
Alarmingly, and for teens in particular, cyber-bullying,
harassment, stalking, spying, sexting and sexual predation has reached
dangerous levels through out the country, resulting in new anti bullying
obvious that current methods, no matter how much many adults and
administrators may want to indulge in, which include punishment,
punishment, punishment, just DO NOT work!
Palmer, LCSW, an experienced teacher, therapist, and school counselor
presents a new approach to bullying:
Bully Proofing Your Child. Most
anti-bullying curriculum puts the focus on getting the bully to change
and doesn’t empower the victims of bullying
to learn ways to solve the
approach presented at this CHILD sponsored program, which was featured
on CHILD’s website during our Live Conference Series, is based
on the brilliant work of psychologist Izzy Kalman, who created a
curriculum called Bullies to Buddies, (www.bullies2buddies.com).
The program is a social skills approach that is based not on
punishing bullies, but on helping victims learn ways to respond, which
quickly reduces the bullying and leaves the child empowered, no
longer a helpless victim reliant on adults to solve their problems.
The program will:
• Help parents and teachers learn how to effectively support their child/student if they are
• Explore parenting and teaching methods that help “bully proof” your child/student
• Teach parents and teachers simple responses that will dramatically reduce aggression
between kids at home or in the classroom, while increasing their resilience, independence
and emotional maturity.
Ms. Palmer is
Certified as a Bullies to Buddies trainer.
This FREE program has been part of the regular monthly programming sponsored by The CHILD Organization of Scotch Plains Fanwood.